- A single or a number of slaps in a child's bottom using an open hand as means of punishment for a misbehavior. It may involve the use of any implement like rod or belt instead of a hand.
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Were you spanked during your childhood? If you were, are you a better person now? If you are a parent, do you use spanking as a form of punishment to get through to your children?
I am a mother and I would never want to hurt my kids in any way as much as possible but there are occasions that I have to establish authority and implement discipline. My husband and I set some house rules that must be strictly observed. Our children are well aware of those regulations and they know the consequences if ever they misbehave.
At my age, I still have to face the challenge of raising a toddler along with his two other teenage siblings... three diversified characters with individual personalities in today's generation. Dealing with the former is quite harder than the two latter (when they were his age) especially his tantrums and seemingly endless cries... slapping my kids' bottom is my last resort. I must admit, it pains me to do it but it hurts me even more if they do the same unacceptable behavior over and over again.
Punishment must be painful to be effective. It becomes abusive if it's done without warning and executed to humiliate a child in front of many.
I have no intention of promoting or discouraging any parent to spank or whoop or smack (as the term implies) their children to correct them. The truth is, I wish to free myself from guilt for using such punishment so I've checked out some articles regarding its advantages and disadvantages.
According to researches and studies, spanking is a much-debated topic. Most child psychologists do not recommend spanking as a discipline method for children. However, other psychologists and many parents will tell you that a spanking given with fairness, love and care is an effective discipline technique. The decision as to the usefulness of spanking is best made by a child's parents.
The bottom line is...
Every parent must use his own sense of right and wrong when making parenting decisions. A parent can look to others for advice, but in the end, he must make his own choices based on what is right for his children. -by PAUL PRESTON
From my own point of view:
A physical pain felt by a child from a mother's hand will never hurt him or her if done in good faith. It will only leave a temporary pain but will yield a lasting mark of a parent's love.