|Kiko's first ever drawing without any help from anybody|
When kids learn to scribble or doodle, they start to show signs of intellectual capacities and through making marks on paper, they somehow recognize reality. Their imagination and creativity may manifest in their drawings and this stage in their development will give them freedom to express their inner self. How they feel about something and how they interact with the people around them are critical factors that may influence their normal growth as they age.
About a week ago, Kiko asked for a paper and pencil. I wasn't aware of what he drew on the paper but I was not aware until his Ate Lizette cared to take a look and this drawing of six people holding hands together was laid before my eyes. We asked him why did he draw six, the fact that we are only five: Papa, Mama, Ate, Kuya and Kiko. He replied with no hesitation that the sixth person is his Ate Bebeth.
|Bebeth, Kiko and their undeniable closeness|
It was year 2002 when Elizabeth Bantilo or fondly called Bebeth arrived in our humble home. She was only 17 years old then and seemingly naive yet, I felt she had the characteristic of a dependable and trustworthy house help and my instincts were right. She's a fast-learner and the best thing that I like about her... is her being well-organized. She strictly followed everything that I told her especially with regards to my kids and attending to their needs when my husband and I were out to work.
She enjoyed some benefits like SSS, Phil-health, Mid-year, 13th-month pay and her monthly salary was above minimum for housemaids because I believe that her competence and effectiveness only deserved just compensation. For over 6 years, she offered her unwavering service. She was also allowed to have a month-long vacation in their province. She became a family to us.
But when I gave birth to Kiko, she was in her first trimester as well with her first pregnancy so, I was left with no other choice but to give her up and let her live her own life. She too would become a mother.
Then, I faced a world beyond imagination... I suddenly became a mom 24/7. All the chores were now in my sole hands. My asthma attacks got worst leaving several lesions on my hands and with a baby around, I had to get someone to take care of the laundry or else... I would be useless and helpless.
Bebeth went home to Northern Samar until she delivered her first-born, December of the same year I did with Kiko. We were kept in touch through text.
I found it difficult to find another replacement for her. It's easy to get one but to have an honest and trustworthy was the problem. I told my husband that I wanted her to get back so I tried calling her and fortunately, she was ready to accept my offer and left her daughter with her mother's care.
She was back last September 2011 and met Kiko who was then 2 years and 3 months old. We're all very excited to see her again. She's like my eldest daughter because her mother actually is the same age as mine. Kiko liked her since day 1 and that's the start of their bond. The fact that Bebeth is a mother herself, she's even more effective being "yaya" to my adorable toddler.
|The whole family, with Bebeth of course|
But, June of this year she went for a vacation again but because of some reasons, I chose not to take her back and she agreed to wait until I decide to... up to this writing.
We truly miss her and Kiko always ask me when will she be back... I told him, Ate Bebeth is taking care of her baby and she will not getting back yet, not soon.
Kiko's drawing just shows how he missed his Ate Bebeth and the bond they formed during the days she's with us etched in his young heart and mind.