How Do you Treat Your Househelp?


Kiko's first ever drawing without any help from anybody
Kiko's first ever drawing without any help from anybody

When kids learn to scribble or doodle, they start to show signs of intellectual capacities and through making marks on paper, they somehow recognize reality. Their imagination and creativity may manifest in their drawings and this stage in their development will give them freedom to express their inner self. How they feel about something and how they interact with the people around them are critical factors that may influence their normal growth as they age.


About a week ago, Kiko asked for a paper and pencil. I wasn't aware of what he drew on the paper but I was not aware until his Ate Lizette cared to take a look and this drawing of six people holding hands together was laid before my eyes.  We asked him why did he draw six, the fact that we are only five: Papa, Mama, Ate, Kuya and Kiko.  He replied with no hesitation that the sixth person is his Ate Bebeth.

Bebeth, Kiko and their undeniable closeness
Bebeth, Kiko and their undeniable closeness

It was year 2002 when Elizabeth Bantilo or fondly called Bebeth arrived in our humble home. She was only 17 years old then and seemingly naive yet, I felt she had the characteristic of a dependable and trustworthy house help and my instincts were right. She's a fast-learner and the best thing that I like about her... is her being well-organized. She strictly followed everything that I told her especially with regards to my kids and attending to their needs when my husband and I were out to work.

She enjoyed some benefits like SSS, Phil-health,  Mid-year, 13th-month pay and her monthly salary was above minimum for housemaids because I believe that her competence and effectiveness only deserved just compensation. For over 6 years, she offered her unwavering service. She was also allowed to have a month-long vacation in their province. She became a family to us.

But when I gave birth to Kiko, she was in her first trimester as well with her first pregnancy so, I was left with no other choice but to give her up and let her live her own life. She too would become a mother.

Then, I faced a world beyond imagination... I suddenly became a mom 24/7. All the chores were now in my sole hands.  My asthma attacks got worst leaving several lesions on my hands and with a baby around, I had to get someone to take care of the laundry or else... I would be useless and helpless.

Bebeth went home to Northern Samar until she delivered her first-born, December of the same year I did with Kiko. We were kept in touch through text.

I found it difficult to find another replacement for her. It's easy to get one but to have an honest and trustworthy was the problem. I told my husband that I wanted her to get back so I tried calling her and fortunately, she was ready to accept my offer and left her daughter with her mother's care.

She was back last September 2011 and met Kiko who was then 2 years and 3 months old. We're all very excited to see her again. She's like my eldest daughter because her mother actually is the same age as mine. Kiko liked her since day 1 and that's the start of their bond. The fact that Bebeth is a mother herself, she's even more effective being "yaya" to my adorable toddler.

The whole family, with Bebeth of course
The whole family, with Bebeth of course

But, June of this year she went for a vacation again but because of some reasons, I chose not to take her back and she agreed to wait until I decide to... up to this writing.

We truly miss her and Kiko always ask me when will she be back... I told him, Ate Bebeth is taking care of her baby and she will not getting back yet, not soon.

Kiko's drawing just shows how he missed his Ate Bebeth and the bond they formed during the days she's with us etched in his young heart and mind.

14 comments:

  1. A trusty house help is very difficult to find and it's good that you had her as part of your family but looks like she also has to be a mother now.

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    1. I'm fortunate enough to have her in the house but she has her own family now, to take care of.

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  2. Very rare to find a househelp who is trustworthy nowadays. I was able to raise my children without a yaya and I survived.. lol..

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    1. Good for you. I used to work before so, I need to have one to take charge of the household in my behalf. But now, I'm surviving without Bebeth and so far, the only problem is my skin asthma. It really affects my performance being the all-around mom. :(

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  3. Oh your toddler is so sweet. You know this time it is really difficult to find a trustworthy house help. I hope more like her will spread in this world.

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    1. Even you secure house helps from agencies, it's not a guarantee that you can get a trustworthy one. Some maids do belong to some syndicates that victimize a lot of families.

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    2. Yes I know. I have been there in that scenario and just a matter of 2 months my housekeepers left because my kids were hyperactive and she can't handle them.

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  4. There are times that I think of getting a house help too but the thought of getting one that cannot be trusted opt me not to. You're very lucky for finding Ate Bebeth. She's one in a million. :)

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    1. It's hard to trust anyone nowadays. Getting maids by referral is safer but not 100 percent guaranteed.

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  5. That's so sweet. I miss our own yaya, she's a lola now!

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    1. Househelps whom we considered family stayed with us for a long time and sometimes weren't able to get married and have own families because of their dedication and commitment.

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  6. it's nice to have someone trustworthy these days... i had several, my last was a big disappointment. she's only returning the favor, benefits and goodness you gave her. lucky you... Yahweh bless.

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    1. So sad to hear that you experienced such disappointments with maids. Actually, I had some too but they never stayed a day in my house... I immediately fired them... :(

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  7. We also had a maid who stayed with us, I think for 7 years. She was almost the same age as I am so what I found in her is a younger sister. True, it's really hard to trust maids nowadays.

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