Before and Now


This is how we looked together when my AYA was only 3 years old. Her facial expression resembled mine but actually she's prettier than me.
This is how we looked together when my AYA was only 3 years old. Her facial expression resembled mine but actually she's prettier than me.

And this is how we are now. She's a lot more beautiful and lovely. She has grown to be a fine young lady though sometimes we have different points of view and disagree to some issues concerning school and other teenage activities.

And this is how we are now. She's a lot more beautiful and lovely. She has grown to be a fine young lady though sometimes we have different points of view and disagree to some issues concerning school and other teenage activities.

In this modern fast-paced environment, the things which were considered luxuries before are regarded as needs of today's generation. Children of this digital age are learning and adopting quicker than the elders adjusting to the present society.

The new trends like mobile phones, music players, computer and other gadgets are affecting my concern to understand the young people's mind like my AYA. I keep comparing myself from her especially when I was her age. I'm the eldest daughter and she is my firstborn so, I seem to expect too much from her but I guess it's not right to put my shoes on her. The problem is not "generation gap" but diversity of opinions and behavior. If communication remains consistent and positive then we will both accept our own individuality.

Sometimes, it's better for parents to give children the chance to prove their point than to force them to do anything beyond their means. Authority is still in our hands. We just have to open our minds to a wider horizon... a new perspective. We cannot bring them to the world we used to live in, instead try to live with them in this quite strange lifestyle.


26 comments:

  1. Whether we like it or not, magiging ka berks talaga natin ang ating mga chikiting :P hehehe.. parang yung anak lang ang nagbago ha, yung mommy wala :P

    Herbert

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  2. It is hard to raise a tween now because parents are competing with so many things when it comes to child rearing--technology, media etc. My daughter is turning 11, and now I can see the big difference in the way we are before at that age to them now at this age.

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  3. true. be open-minded. try to adjust with the signs of time. we can never force them to live how we used to. just don't forget that you're the mom and she's the child. :)

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  4. We parents could be stubborn at times...'sigh' we rely too much on the cliche, "mothers know best" that we forget to let our kids grow their own wings...hmmm....napalayo ako but anyway, children are our inheritance, it is but right that we care for them so they will prosper...they'll appreciate that soon enough.

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  5. wow.. parang magkapatid lang ha hahha,,,and i agree with this one "Sometimes, it's better for parents to give children the chance to prove their point " para naman they know how to handle this in the mature way..

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  6. Naalala ko tuloy mama ko. para kami talagang magkapatid. We love to do things together. Madami kaming bonding moments. =)

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  7. i do not believe in generation gap, as well. open conversation with the kids should be enhance to bridge the gap.
    i, for one has to LIKE justine beiber & charice pempengco just to be able to make bonding easy with my kids.

    your daughter grew older to become a pretty young lady. but, i must say, you have become a lot younger :)

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  8. Your not alone darling. I am the eldest and now I have a daughter. She is nearly 3 we are living abroad and as much as I can I will try my best to adopt my culture because I genuinely believe that my parents brought with manners and conduct. Ang daming Pinoy dito sa lugar namin pero ang mga anak nila. Na-adik sa mga gadgets tapos ang mga parents tinatakot ng mga bata para makuha lang ang gusto.

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  9. Hello Marri! I don't know anything about parenting but I do understand your point of view, with me being the daughter in this case. I loved your last few lines. You're right about keeping an open mind.

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  10. This a great point of view from a mom herself. All new moms out there should read this post.

    btw, you both look beautiful...like mother, like daughter...

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  11. I wish I had a daughters too in d future

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  12. awww this is a cute post. she's pretty!

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  13. Ah so touching! Makes me want to have a pretty daughter someday too.

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  14. wow, sweet mother and daughter then and now pics! you both are lovely!!made me look at the many pics of me and my mom!!

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  15. Thanks for taking this opportunity to discuss this, I feel fervently about this and I like learning about this subject. If possible, as you gain information, please update this blog with more information. I have found it really useful.

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  16. both of you are looking just like ka-berks sa second photo.. ;)

    ..here's another mother story that trembles me..hehehe..actually, everytime i read mommy blogs about their family, or how they raise their kids, kinakabahan ako..hahaha..natatakot tuloy ako magkaron ng sariling anak, pamilya..haaay.. ;|

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  17. good memories... nice pics. generation gap, well it's just like our uniqueness from each another... just need to adjust. Yahweh bless.

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  18. The binding keeps on stronger since before and until the present. What really counts is the ever caring and loving, tender of a mother. Thus, in return, the daughter so reciprocates the said virtue and love. More power to both of you. God bless!

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  19. love these lines - "Sometimes, it's better for parents to give children the chance to prove their point than to force them to do anything beyond their means. Authority is still in our hands. We just have to open our minds to a wider horizon... a new perspective" ... my first born is turning 10! and she's almost as tall as me!!! - my, my, my.. I still feel like a young lady myself! lol! Thanks for the advise.

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  20. mommy you still look the same. Pwede ka mag endorse ng anti aging cream :)

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  21. true. it's very different now and no matter how hard we try to impose our beliefs unto them, they're just not "in" with the times. compromise is a good thing and comes in handy when clashes arise.

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  22. Its like your sisters with probably a 6-7 year age gap. ^_^

    I agree on the last paragraph that we parents should let our children grow as they like but we should always guide them on what is right and what is not. ^_^

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  23. My son is only 3y old but we seems to argue sometimes with a lot of things. But I do always remind him that I am the "mommy". Anyway, to make things easier and lots of fun, I abide to his likes.

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  24. I have browsed old photos of me and my elder daughter too just last week. You and yours both look pretty and happy! I guess arguments can't really be avoided but just as long as you both know who's in charge, then it's all healthy.

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